Any advice: Thinking of ending my relationship but I am 7 ths pregnant…Advice please:?
I have been w/ my partner 2 1/2 yrs. I ‘m thinking of ending things, he has 12 yrs old child w/many behavioral issues. We receive phone calls on weekly basis from school. He’s on a conduct sheet in school & recently suspended on superintendent level for hurting child w/ a sharp object. During my whole pregnancy my partner went to 1 appt only. He’s constantly taking off to meet w/ school officials.I was very supportive & helped out plenty at start.Help identify behaviors, set up chore chart & incentives at home had child evaluated (in process but ADHD is confirmed) I even paid for this evaluation b/c it was out-of network of my partner’s coverage but 7 mths into my pregnancy I feel lonley & like a single mother.The child requires too much attention & I feel new baby will not get needed attention. When it was just me I was willing but now I have to think of my baby’s well being & modeling healthy behavior.I feel the envirnment is toxic & dysfunctional.Don’t want 2 bring my baby up in it
What do you do if your child is born into this world with a disability, do you then run out on that child as well?
I’m not judging.
You’re pregnant, so you’re worrying about waaaaay into the future… I so understand.. I’ve been there.. I use to worry about how I’d put her through college when I was pregnant!! I would literally have sleepless nights stressing about this!! It comes with getting prepared to be a mother.
Just think about your decision first.
If this is the only reason then I suggest you rethink it.
If your partner is a good person, father (sounds like it to me if he’s trying to get his kid help) and he’s a good man to you…. then don’t leave.
This issue with his child will work out…. just give it time, patience is a vertue..
Tell your partner that you need him to take up most of the slack so that you can relax…. cause when you’re stressed guess who else is stressed???
Calmly talk to him about your worries, ….. I’m sure if he’s a good man he’ll understand…. don’t ever just leave in the heat of the moment… don’t make these decisions either w/out talking to him & listening to what he has to say… he may not even know that you’re this worried, stressed…..
