Coping with wedding jealousy?
Ok – I have admitted and accepted that I am jealous or perphaps more envious of my fiances brother getting married this weekend. We had to push our wedding back so it will now be in 2 years (financial reasons – we will just be more financially set if we do it in two years and we are not having a big wedding). Anyway, as the wedding has drawn closer I have become more jealous that they are now getting what I wanted (getting married) and that his wife will get to become part of the family way earlier than I do. I realize these feelings are irrational and not worth it, because the situation is what it is and I want to be happy for them and not live in jealously until we get to be married, but how do I cope with this jealousy? Also,we are very close in age (2 years apart) and I’m worried about the comptitive and jealous side in me will constantly be competing with them as far as having children and being jealous when they have them before me. Can you suggest any techniques to cope?
It’s really hard to sit back and watch someone get something that you REALLY want. But – you have to keep telling yourself that everything works out for a reason. I know right now it seems like a big deal – but in 2 years when your wedding comes around she will probably be jealous that you are having your wedding and hers is already over. It’s give and take really…
Just try to be happy for her and realize that 2 years isn’t that far away. Everyone does things at different times in life – there is not set time or age to do things.
If you start to get jealous just think about how happy that you will be that day and allow yourself to share in her and your fiances brothers happiness. Enjoy yourself, celebrate, have a great time and know that your wedding is just around the corner.
