can my marriage be saved?
My husband left me almost two weeks ago. The reason being, I cracked him across the face. It wouldn’t be the first time, God knows I have a nasty temper. I’ve started going to cousoling for it. I want to save my marriage, I love my husband more than anything. I hear he’s with another girl who’s only 18 years old. He told me she makes him happy. How would he know that with in two weeks though? He’s not talking to me, he’s not talking to his best friend. He’s shut everyone out that cares about him. His mom and sister are willing to pay for a divorce! Someone please help me!
First of all, I think it is good that you are getting help. I have been married for 21 years and I just can’t imagine being married if I were fighting with my spouse and getting cracked around.
Oh, perhaps once every two months or so we disagree and one of us, (usually me) has to give in, but there are many more times I don’t agree with something she’s or going to do, but I can see she’s going to do it regardless of what I think, and I just accept it. There’s no use fighting or arguing about it if there is no chance of improving the situation.
Being as old as I am, I have also seen a fair number of break-ups, and most are as a result of the same situation you detail above. Nasty temper, the person doesn’t think they can spend the rest of their life in that sort of combative situation and stay sane, so they bale.
In most such situations they have been 10+ year marriages, and once one side pulls the plug, that’s it.
There was one situation where I did see a 15 year couple get back together, and they have stayed together for another 10 and appear destined to remain with eachother.
Neither of them, however, had met and taken up with someone else.
In any case, getting the temper under control and thinking before getting angry is one of the keys to a successful marriage whether it be with your “husband” or some future husband.
Good luck
