Ending an affair is difficult. It’s an admission of guilt, sadness, and failure all rolled up into one package. Breaking up is hard to do. Ending an affair is never easy even if both partners realize it’s time. Unfortunately it’s not like in the movies with violins and teary, touching goodbyes. Is it any wonder that everyday people search for advice on ending an affair. Too bad there isn’t a listing in the phone book Advice Breaking Up, call now.
It would seem that if you’re reading this, most likely you’re one of those people who are looking for the right way to end an affair with the least heartbreak for both of you. Here are a few tips that hopefully will help.
1. Don’t delay. Once you’ve made up your mind to end the affair pick a date and stick with it. It’s too easy to come up with excuses why now isn’t a good time. Your significant other has just caught a cold, changed jobs, or is trying to quit smoking are all just excuses to delay. There will always be a reason why now isn’t the right time.
It’s even more of a challenge if one of the party realizes it has to end and the other doesn’t let on he or she has a clue there’s anything the matter. Let’s face it, it’s not easy having to let somebody go, for both parties. Endings, bad or good, are difficult.
Face the facts it’s not going to be any easier a week from now or a month from now. The longer you wait the more of a disservice you’re doing your partner.
2. Be direct. Don’t waffle around. A simple “we’re just not working out” is enough. You may decide to give the reasons behind your decision for ending an affair. If you do be firm and don’t give the impression that you can be talked out of it. The reasons should be objective and if at all possible non judgmental. Don’t blame. When you think about it there isn’t anyone really at fault when breaking up.
3. Be calm. This is probably the most difficult piece of breaking up advice. Even if both of you have reached the conclusion to end the affair it’s still emotional to admit it’s over. If the other person starts to get angry, it’s in your best interest to stay calm. Some people recommend that breaking up be done in a public place to prevent any hysteria. Personally a private place perhaps at a park would be better. Keep in mind that if the person driving is unaware that you’re breaking up you might have to find other transportation home.
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About The Author: Dee Power is the co-author of several nonfiction books including “The Publishing Primer: A Blueprint for an Author’s Success,” “58 Ways to Find Money for Your Business, “Inside Secrets to Venture Capital” and “Attracting Capital From Angels”
